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Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Whaaaaaaa? Wednesday

So I'm sitting on the floor, hair up in a messy ponytail, in an over-sized T-shirt that's torn and bleach stained. I have on daisy dukes that I never leave the house in and are only worn on cleaning day. I'm not showered yet, a dust cloth and Windex at my side. The phone rings, it's my ex-husband, my kids father.



Bill : Hi, busy?
Me: Not really.
Bill: What are you doing?
Me: Watching porn.
Bill: ::: silence :::
Me: Wait, that didn't sound right.
Me: I'm watching porn, but it's not mine, its Bryan's. (our son)
Bill : ::: silence:::
Me: Still doesn't sound right does it?

I went on to explain, while cleaning, I found Bryan's porn stash. I had a rule when my kids lived with me, no drugs, booze, porn, or paraphernalia of any kind anywhere in my house. I explained it was their home, but my house. My house has rules and I will enforce them, NOTHING is sacred. I guaranteed them I will go through their drawers, closets, backpacks, purses, hiding spots they think I don't know about AND that it is my right and duty. And I did.

When I first found Bryan's porn tapes, I figured OK, probably most boys his age have them. Don't freak. It's against my rules though, so I'll pitch them and tell him after the garbage has been picked up.

Then, I wondered. What does he watch? Is it soft porn? Is it the dumb porn recorded off the Playboy channel? Or ... is it the degrading of women porn? I'd hate to think my kid was watching porn where a woman was being treated sub-human. No way would I want him to think that was acceptable. I also wanted to make sure he wasn't into MILFy porn ...yikes!

So I sat there and watched. I suppose I could have just fast forwarded through the tapes, but actually, they weren't bad. Most were just soft porn. Some were, as I thought, amateur clips recorded off the Playboy channel.

I did throw the tapes out and I did tell him. Porn is porn and it wasn't allowed.

This happened when my son was 14 years old. When I met my girlfriend Donna last Saturday, we were swapping stories of how we handled our teens as they were growing up. We were thanking the Lord they were all grown, but still biting our nails wondering what their young adulthood has in store for us.

13 comments:

Sunshine said...

Doing porn homework for disciplinary purposes. I have heard everything now!

Ree said...

hahahahahhaha. Bill didn't offer to come watch with you?

Audubon Ron said...

My mom use to go down the hall and on her way she’d knock on the bathroom door and say, “Stop playing with that.”

Jami said...

The book is almost always better than the movie. Just sayin'...

Joan said...

If you recall pictures of my son's room, a lot could be in there that I couldn't find. Actually I have looked around when I cleaned and nothing so far.

Michael said...

LOL @ MILFy. (I hear Sharon Stone's new BF is 24!)

You are SO DEAD when B reads this!

At least he's not into all that S&M crap.

Michael said...

Oops...that last comment was supposed to be followed by a smiley face :) (Just poking fun!)

Jennie said...

Lordy...a little peek into my future, I'm sure. I was talking to a mom at 8th grade orientation and she mentioned finding a Playboy in her daughter's room. No, the young woman wasn't exploring sexual options, she was looking for sexy fashion tips! Oye. Can I trade my daughters in for sons?

debra said...

Sometimes I think that our job as parents is to keep our kids alive through adolescence.....

GoteeMan said...

Sounds to me like you are a great parent... I must say I am not sure I could be so calm about it, though I would surely try...

J/

Patience said...

Always a good idea to check out the son's porn before tossing it out. That's what I would do anyway!

Betty said...

My son is 11, so we're approaching those teen years. It's daunting. Sounds as if you got through it with flying colors, probably largely due to your clear rules.

Good job!

Hugs,
Betty

Greg C said...

I was smart. I never kept my porn at home when I lived with mom and dad. I did have a stash though. :)